This memorial website was created in the memory of our beautiful son,
Elijah Joseph Virago
who was born to his grateful and loving parents at Allegheny General hospital in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania on
Tuesday, September 21, 1999 at 1:04 a.m
Eli was killed on December 10, 2005 at the age of 6 years, 2 months, and 19 days old. He died with his grandparents
when their house burned down.
Our amazing and wonderful son would have been 18 years old and a freshman in college!
So hard to believe. A young man.
In 2012, we hit an odd and unappealling milestone... On leap day of that year marked 6 years, 2 months and 19 days since Eli was killed. As of then, we have since entered the era of Eli having been gone longer than he was with us. Very sad to think about.
Another difficult milestone we passed, in 2014, lovely Olivia became older than Eli. She even reached her 7th birthday. This may seem insignificant to anyone else, but it is an an unmistakable reminder of how much we miss Eli and grieve losing him at much too young of an age.
We have yet to discuss with Olivia how or when Eli died, though she is very curious and has asked several times. Knowing what happened and when has become her constant question she wants us to answer. We've told her that we will tell her, but we are waiting to tell her (because as her mothers who love and care about her) we have "our reasons" for not telling her yet. I've also told her that when we do tell her, she will understand why. She's been asking since she was 5, almost 6. She is now 7. In theory,I would feel more comfortable telling her now. However, Lucy is just 4. I couldn't imagine Olivia knowing and expecting her to keep that info from her. I also don't want Olivia to wait until Lucy turns 7, God willing. So, sometime in the next year or so, we will tell her... Maybe before Lucy turns 6. Our concern, of course, is the fear that our daughter may have being the age that she knows her brother was when he died. As a child, that seems tremendously frightening. Having a deceased sibling is already more than enough of a huge trauma to deal with for such a young child. When we disclose further details of how and when to our young girls are decisions we are still working through.
We will love, miss, and remember our beautiful boy forever.
Elijah was a beautiful, vibrant, brilliant, charming, kind, sweet, caring, and precious boy.
He was larger than life. His spirit filled a room with joy and positive energy; When Eli was in the room, you took notice of him.
He drew the attention and adoration of everyone.
He always stood out in a room of other children. He was the one moving the fastest, or talking the fastest, or smiling the biggest.
He gravitated towards adults. He loved talking with them and entertaining them. He was very charming and intelligent. You could never trick him. He was quick witted and very sensitive to others' feelings.
He was a very happy child. He enjoyed playing computer games, was an avid reader, and was full of energy!
Elijah had dreams of becoming an actor. Those who were fortunate enough to meet him, knew he was quite a character!